A Lesson on Family

I know many will be spending time writing or perhaps contemplating on their achievements and failures of 2010 and their hopes for the new year. 2010 has been a year filled with many surprises for me. The biggest of all was of course that I was going to be a father soon.

But amidst the success and failure of the year, there was one strong lesson for me and that was the importance of family.

To be honest, I’m not exactly the best role model when it comes to family. I have always stayed away from family functions deeming them unnecessary and have kept minimal contact with my relatives. It’s not that I don’t want to constantly keep in touch with them but sometimes things happen in such a way that it always ends up with me missing a family function or similar opportunities you could call “family-bonding”. And I’ve seen my share of so called family members back biting each other.

When I say family, I’m not talking about just relatives but people who are always around supporting you through smooth and rough times. To me, these are my family. Just because a person is somewhat related, does not make them important. What makes a person important to me is the fact that they are there, especially in times of need.

If there was one thing I want my kid to learn as he/she grows up, it would be the importance of family and close friends. A close family bond is like a safe harbour where we find refuge. From trusting that someone will pick us up when we fall, as a toddler, to someone being there for us as we experience the storms in life – family bonds help to instill trust and hope in the world around us and belief in ourselves. Rituals of bedtime stories, hugs, holidays and daily meals shared together, provide a sense of warmth, structure and safety. These rituals and traditions I believe will not only create memories and leave a family legacy, but create our first path in life – one that is positive.

Happy New Year my dearest family and friends!

Kugan Kumar

V.Kugantharan is the founder of Joy With Music, where he teaches adults and kids the joys of playing the piano. He also runs a web design agency, 504 Studios. A father of a very "opinionated" four-year-old, he divides his time between his passions -- blogging, reading, music, design and books.

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